Showing posts with label narcissistic personality disorder. Show all posts
Showing posts with label narcissistic personality disorder. Show all posts

Thursday, July 29, 2010

It's Not Easy Being Mean


Everyone is back in Westchester and The PC are back at OCD. Claire is talking to her agent concerning her future career. Massie, Alicia and Dylan join the soccer team. Also, the 8th grade secret room is up for grabs as 7th grade girls go around trying to find the key that opens the door to the room. Where is the key? It is hidden under the mattress of a boys room. The first to find wins the room.

Claire has stalkers and people are buying her personal things from Tiny Nathan and Todd. Massie not only reminds the girls that people love The PC but also want to be The PC and that they still look for flaws in them.

Claire having stalkers is weird. However, my concern here is Massie believing everyone wants to be The PC. This is a good indication of high self-esteem and another indication of narcissism in the making. Parents and adults, encourage good healthy self-esteem in your children but do not have them develop egos that are too big for their own good. This child does not have low self anything! This is a HUGE myth with these abusers. It is important to know this.

Claire mentions having to see her agent in Manhattan. This makes Massie angry and she wants to smack her. Why? Because that she be her and not Claire.

Here we go again. The wrath of Massie and her feelings of entitlement in how she treats her friends. Talk to your kids about how a friend encourages others but also talk to them about rubbing good things in the face of others. This is a huge problem in girls. Someone has something good happen to them and others get angry and jealous. So, the person rubs their good news in to the others to make them jealous. How can anyone be happy for someone when they are intentionally trying to anger them? At the same time, good things come to all of us and we all will get our chance. Good things come to those who wait.

On the first day back to school, everyone is so excited to see The PC back at OCD. Before entering the building, Massie lines The PC up against the building and does a wardrobe check. Claire does not want to show Massie what she is wearing as anyone who rates below a 7 has to walk 3 paces behind the rest of the group. So, Claire is walking 3 paces behind the others through the halls. Once they walk down the hall everyone cheers and claps. Massie has purple balloons taped to her locker. Also, Us Weekly articles about the movie and their trip to Los Angeles. There are even old articles on Celebrities and their daughters with Dylan and her mother. Claire is signing autographs and other PC members are signing things for others. Of course, this annoys them and they shoo their fans away.

Once again, the power is given to a group of mean girls and their entitlement is starting to soar. I would have hoped that the others at school would have been glad to go to school without being abused on a daily basis. Once again, these girls do not have low self-esteem and behavior like this creates monsters. I understand Claire signing autographs but Massie and the others? What did they do?

At lunch, table eighteen is roped off with purple ribbon. The crafts club made them pillows to put in their chairs. They love the attention but Massie is getting bored. She knows she is loved and ah-dored but is also annoyed because people liked seeing Claire in the movie. Despite everyone making the effort to try to welcome them back, they are annoyed with people stopping by. Also, Massie keeps calling them LBR's under her breath when they stop by. She even yells "Enough! We are in the middle of something, okay?" and when Layne stops by to see Claire Massie coughs L Alicia B Dylan R while Kristen giggles.

We are seeing more of the monsters being created here. Why are these kids wasting their time? They are all learning that being bad, rude, disrespectful and nasty to others is a good thing. The way they are treating Layne is horrible. Again, you want your children to be like Layne. She is the one who is healthy here. All anyone is doing here is creating monsters in these girls. They have power and use it in the wrong way. Talk to children about being good leaders. These girls are leaders by nature but are corrupt ones.

Massie and her friends are in the school chapel. They run into Kora and Penelope. They want to know why Massie and her friends are there and Massie lets them know that she was there praying because she lost her keys. However, it did not work because Penelope is still annoying. Alicia snarls for them to leave and they refuse to. Massie reminds Kora peed in her sleeping bag at a sleepover in 3rd grade and will not have any trouble letting everyone know if they do not leave. The girls leave the chapel.

Was this necessary? A chapel is big enough for everyone and the other girls were there first. I like how they stood up to them at first by asking why they were there. Also, by initially refusing to leave. Massie once again resorts to blackmail to get what she wants. Does anyone want our children to grow up and corrupt others? Newsflash, it is happening all the time and people wonder why others behave in such a manner? It starts here with these people as children. They have power and abuse it. Please catch this early on so they don't grow up to be corrupt.

The next morning Alicia, Dylan and Massie show up at soccer practice. They make their own outfits which everyone adores. So, Dylan starts taking orders so others can purchase one for themselves. Plus, they get a warm welcome to the team. In return, The PC mumbles "LBR's" under their breaths. Kori fell and hurt herself and The PC thinks its funny. Also at one point, Massie reassures The PC that the rules that apply to the others on the team do not apply to them.

BINGO! We have a winner! Rules don't apply to them? I have said it all along and that is when giving power to people who do not deserve it, it only gives them a greater sense of entitlement. These girls are proud of themselves and everyone around them just keep feeding them more power. This is done by purchasing what they are wearing and giving such a warm ovation to the team. Why is it funny when someone falls and hurts themselves? The lack of empathy is crystal clear here. They have no respect whatsoever for anyone else and it is showing by calling them LBR's. Is anyone else seeing what is wrong with this picture?

The girls are hiding behind a bush at Briarwood trying to figure out how to get the key to the 8th grade room. Massie starts abusing by Claire by making fun of her eyebrows. Also, her hat, glasses and other things. She states that what Claire looks like is an LBR and whoever does not find the key will look like an LBR like Claire. Then the subject changes and Claire is so happy they have stopped abusing her.

What? Claire needs to get away from these girls and quickly. This child is taking all of this in and it will stay with her for many years. She is learning that friends abuse and when they stop, it means she has done something right. Friends do not abuse friends!

Massie finds out that Claire has lied to her about Cam and a visiting relative. So, she kicks her out of The PC and Claire is beyond devastated. So, she goes to Layne's house where Layne cheers her up. It turns out that the key everyone is looking for is under Chris's bed. Claire and Layne call The PC at Massies and let them know they have the key. Also, they are willing to negotiate terms for having the key.

Okay, it is evident that Layne really is not all that interested in having this key. At the same time, I appreciate how she is not just feeding these girls what they want but making them negotiate. This is what I like about Layne and that is she does not cater to these abusers and put them on pedestals. This results in Claire being admitted back into The PC. I am still trying to understand why she even wants to be a part in the first place. Oh wait, the power and glory everyone give them. She wants that also. Folks, Layne is the emotionally healthy and well adjusted character here. She is not dying to belong to The PC like Claire is. She sees these girls for what they are and as a result she stays away from them. Most importantly, she has a mind of her own and tries to get along with everyone and is comfortable in her own skin. THIS is healthy behavior! Talk to children about aiming towards having these social skills before any others.
Disclaimer: I do not own these books or these characters. They belong to Lisi Harrison and the people at Poppy Books.